In our work together, the focus is on your relationship as a whole, rather than on you or your partner individually. In other words, your relationship is my “client” rather than either of you individually.

My couples coaching is based on a joint coaching of partners for 8-10 sessions that are each 1.5-2h long, individual coaching for up to 4-6 sessions that are each 1h long. You should count about 2-3 months of weekly and bi-weekly sessions (see details below) to go through the main body of coaching. Then follows a period of maintenance sessions on demand for 1 year from the end of the main body of coaching. I offer maintenance sessions to help you make sure you are integrating the work into your daily lives. We will determine the frequency of such sessions together at the end of the main body of coaching.

During the first 3-4 couples sessions, we will focus on gathering data about your couple, each of your histories, how it informs your current patterns in the relationship, each of your desires for your relationship, behaviors that are relational and behaviors that impede connection, and various concepts that will help each of you to understand your situation and patterns of behavior. These sessions are best done shortly one after the other (up to a week distance apart) to keep up the momentum.

During the next 4-6 couples sessions, we will focus on learning and practicing new skills. It is not sufficient to be aware of behaviors that are detrimental to your relationship; for a durable change, you need to displace the old patterns with new skills. During this time, you will be invited to make enough time to practice the new skills outside our sessions. The success of our work together will depend on your willingness to practice. These sessions can be spaced out up to one every two weeks to allow space for you to practice the skills you will be learning during the sessions.

I also offer individual coaching sessions within the frame of and to support the couples coaching. During these sessions we will be focusing on remapping each of your internal systems so that each of you can become solid in your sense of self, in your ability to mentalize and collaborate, and in your capacity to relate to the other partner in a healthy manner. These sessions will be provided as necessary, in conjunction with couples sessions 4-6.

Single? Coaching without your partner?

If you are single or interested in couples coaching without your partner, the structure of the coaching may vary to best meet your unique needs. While the coaching will be provided on an individual basis, please know that your relationship(s)—whether current or potential—will still be the focus of our work together (the relationship is the '“client”). This allows us to explore and strengthen your relational patterns and approach to connection, no matter your relationship status.

Alternatively, the most extensive and comprehensive way of exploring and enhancing your range of relational skills on a one-on-one basis is through attachment-based guided meditation (Ideal Parent Figure Protocol a.k.a. IPFP). In this modality, you will be guided to build secure attachment patterns and should foresee about 2-3 sessions (each 45min-1h long) per week, and allow for at least 50+ sessions for remarkable shifts in experiences. This is by far one of the “fastest” ways of cultivating relational habits and patterns, although it may not appear like that at first.

On Expectations

The less relational patterns of behavior you’ve developed over your life such as criticism, contempt, defensiveness, or withdrawal, were created as ways to protect you from harm. These patterns have served you well and will continue to be a part of you, as they have played an important protective role.

However, in our work together, you will begin to notice that these protective patterns are not as helpful when it comes to building close, intimate relationships. My goal is to support you in finding space for new, more relational patterns—ways of connecting that feel safer and more authentic in your relationships.

While there is no "final destination" in this process, the goal is to find a balance between protecting yourself and opening up to connection. This is a practice that unfolds moment by moment, and many describe it as a journey—one where each step brings greater awareness and deeper connection.